Questions and answers on relationship advice

Relationships are one of the most important things to have in this world, but they don't always go as expected. In fact, they can often be painful as you try to balance your feelings and someone else's.


Me (25) is asked by this girl (24) what are my intentions? What's a good way to respond without coming on too strong?

Believe it or not, this a very common question in today’s dating world. Both women and men are tired of being played with when it comes to these dating sites and are much more interested in learning someone’s intentions upfront. Not only does this give the significant other an idea of what to expect, but it also is a great starting point to move forward with.

With that being said, the point of this is to be as honest as possible. If you are here to smash and pass, be honest about that. You owe the person that much. If you want a long-term relationship, tell them that and see where it goes. Again, the point is, to be honest about your intentions and what you are looking for out of this possible relationship.

As for the right thing, that varies from person to person. In all honesty, I would start with something along the lines of I would like to get to know you and see where it goes. This leaves everything pretty open-ended, doesn’t come off too strong, and allows both parties involved a sort of no-risk situation. It works for everyone and makes it a no-pressure situation.

My dad likes to act like we're dating catcallers and it makes me uncomfortable. Does anyone have advice on what I should say to him? Or if I should say anything at all? It's gotten to the point where whenever it's just the two of us I tense up when he touches me or I see someone staring.

What a disaster of a situation. If you are close to your father, this kind of has to feel like a punch in the gut in some ways. Is he using you to show he can attract young women? While it’s impossible to know the answer to that question from an outside perspective, his reactions seem absolutely creepy and not away a father should speak of their daughter.

Think about it. This is your father. The person that is supposed to be one of your guiding lights through this world. The fact that he would even play along with this sick narrative already shows a lot about him. If nothing else, broach the topic whenever you are comfortable and make sure you let him know that you are uncomfortable with the situation.

Boyfriend (26M) has claimed his ex (27F) was abusive, and now out of nowhere, she is claiming he was abusive to her. Both have 'friends' on either side who back them up. I am not sure who to believe

Unfortunately, this is one of those he said, she said situations and will have to be approached delicately The first thing you should probably do is think back in your relationship to any problematic behavior your boyfriend might have shown. If nothing else, make sure to watch him a little more carefully and keep the words others have said in mind. If he does start to show the mentioned behavior, make sure to get out of the relationship as quickly as possible and cut contact. Your safety is the most important thing.

bf of close to 3 years just moved in with me (under my lease), and have caught him following many full/half-naked women, saving their videos, and just found out that he is friends on social media with some and comments about how hot they are, during our relationship. (both early 20s)I was never really “allowed” to talk to guys ever, so it’s pretty shocking he’s doing this.

This is one of those rules for thee, but not for my things. He seems to be a little entitled since he is on your lease and just moved into your apartment. Now, looking at the opposite sex is perfectly natural. Men and women are both usually guilty of at least looking. With that being said, however, his rule of you not talking to guys while he talks to women all the time should show you how unfair this is. Maybe start by talking about how all this makes you feel and how one-sided you believe things are. If that doesn’t work, you might want to seriously rethink your relationship with this person, or just accept the fact that he is going to look and talk to other women. You deserve a lot better though and should consider that.


30M virgin never had a GF, complete failure in the dating game, wondering how to deal with parents and other people always asking about my lack of relationships.


In all honesty, it’s none of their business. It’s your life, not there’s. Now  I know you’re probably feeling defeated after not having a girlfriend, but don’t beat yourself up. Finding a significant other is one of the hardest things to do right now, especially with the pandemic still going on, and it’s going to take some time.


What you might want to try though is putting yourself out there more. Sure, you can go on the x, y, and Z dating sites to try your luck, but I think women will appreciate you doing it in public. Most men don’t really venture out that far anymore, which might make it more refreshing to a potential partner when you do. Just get out there, go to a bar and have a good time.


Chances are that if you have a good time and give off a positive vibe, people will be attracted to that. Whether that nets you a date on your first night is impossible to tell, but just being there will definitely make you more confident. It also allows you to go through the dreaded trial and error process, allowing you to learn what you like and dislike about a potential partner.


I love this boy I met online, but he won‘t show his face to anyone So I (21f) met this guy (19m) online and we‘ve been talking every day for over 2 months now. He is also a part of my online friend group of people. We get along super well in every aspect, but he doesn‘t want to show his face to me. He is extremely insecure about his looks.

 As much as you probably value this person’s friendship, you are putting yourself in a lot of danger in the process. This is evident by their lack of transparency towards you and your friends and how long it has gone on.

 Usually, someone becomes comfortable with their friend group over a period of time, and the fact that he isn’t is troubling. Please keep your distance from this person. Their intentions don’t seem to be right, and they could honestly end up being some kind of predator. You just don’t know in a world like this anymore.